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It’s an interesting concept – vulnerability – and one that hits home to many people, including the team here at Kristina Evonne music. So what’s the deal? Why should any of us be vulnerable?
According to Brene Brown, we “stop screaming and start listening” and we become kind and gentle to ourselves and those around us.
That’s enough of a reason for us.
So how do we do it? How do we get to a state of vulnerability?
Here’s 4 suggestions on how to be vulnerable:
1. Ask for help.
We all need it. None of us can battle this world alone. We’re here together, experiencing life simultaneously. There are moments we just need each other. Sometimes it’s something simple like help on an assignment, and sometimes it’s something a little more complex. Sometimes you’re in a funk you can’t seem to pull out of and just need a shoulder to cry on. In either situation – ASK!
2. Embrace who you are – but don’t be afraid to change
Being honest with yourself, your joys, your pains, your hopes, your struggles, allows you to better identify and embrace who you are, from the core. But don’t get stuck there. Once you’ve identified where you are, you can better establish where you’d like to go. Don’t get stuck. Identify, embrace, and improve yourself.
God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.
Reinhold Niebuhr, The Serenity Prayer
3. Allow yourself to experience emotion
All the emotion, too. Not just the good stuff. Don’t be afraid to feel mad, sad, disappointed, happy, overwhelmed, excited, enthralled, outraged, passionate, anxious, uneasy, delighted… Experience it. Don’t, as Brene Brown says, numb the emotion. You can’t numb one without numbing them all.
4. Give love, encouragement, and hope freely
Vulnerability doesn’t just allow you to experience emotion and life in a more real way, it also allows you to give love and hope in a very real way. We love to help those who appear vulnerable (think puppies and kids), but we’re a little more resistant to the idea of helping someone who doesn’t appear vulnerable. Maybe instead of waiting for someone else to become vulnerable enough to help, we freely give love, encouragement, and hope to all. And maybe that love, encouragement, and hope will inspire someone to become a little more vulnerable because YOU believed in them.
Don’t be afraid to feel inside (and stuff like that)…